15 people confess what it's like to date when you have OCD - HelloGiggles
If you have OCD, you know your symptoms can often get in the way of Although it may be tempting to date someone you have met through a. I'm on a date, and we're sharing some homemade potato chips at a cool new cafe in town. He drops a chip on the table and then EATS IT. Although any intimate relationship has its ups and downs, dating someone who is affected by a chronic mental illness such as OCD can.
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Dating is hard even without OCD, and opening up about intrusive thoughts can make it seem even more daunting and impossible. It is easy to feel the need to hide the truth about your OCD and intrusive thoughts from your romantic partners.
You are not a pariah. You are lovable and it is possible to find someone who can accept the real you. When is it appropriate to share what memories?
Will this person accept me when I reveal who I really am? Everyone struggles with these questions, but adding OCD into the mix can take this struggle to the next level.
The intrusive thoughts that come with OCD are excruciatingly painful to live with and can be even harder to share, especially with a romantic partner. Whether it is the worry that you are a rapist, a murderer, a child molester, a creep, or a fraud, the person with OCD often has difficulty understanding that these thoughts are OCD related and have no basis in reality.
The Terrible Antics of Learning to Date When You Have OCD
It can seem virtually impossible to communicate that to someone else. I was 18 and he was I told him because I felt he had a right to know how messed up I was.
I laid it out; prepared for him to be disgusted and never look at me the same way again. Prepared for him to leave. What happened was the opposite of what I expected. He listened and made a real effort to understand. He even shared some of his scariest thoughts with me. Intrusive thoughts may not plague everybody the same way, but they occasionally happen to almost everyone.
I also believe you should stress that you are working hard on fighting your obsessive-compulsive disorder, adding that with a lot of hard work and proper treatment, it can become an insignificant part of your life. If you are not actively fighting your OCD, I think you need to be honest about that as well.
The Terrible Antics of Learning to Date When You Have OCD - The Good Men Project
Should I share details about my OCD? Again, the answer here will vary. Those who are already feeling very close to their new partner might want to share more than those whose relationship is not quite there yet. I do think concrete examples can be helpful in understanding OCD.
How will my significant other react? Excellent question, and a big one for those with OCD who struggle with accepting uncertainty.
Reactions might range from the other person walking away to total acceptance and understanding. However, for most people, my guess is the reaction will be somewhere in between. Hopefully your sweetheart will want to learn more about OCD and how best to support you.
Which brings us to another important reason for being honest with your partner. Unless educated, he or she will likely accommodate your OCD, and as we know, this is counterproductive to beating the disorder.